Offering Support

Offering Support

Need Help?

Need Help?

If you or someone you know is experiencing violence or are at risk of homelessness and need help or support, please click the link below to go through to our Helpful Links page where you will find links to support services.

There are national and state-based agencies that can assist you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

How to support someone you think is being abused?

A lot of people feel that what happens in a relationship is private and that they shouldn’t interfere with personal issues. Family violence however, is everybody’s business. If we fail to act or to say something, then the violence can continue.

The most important thing you can do is to let the person know that you are there for them, and that you support them no matter what their decision. If the person feels isolated and judged, it is less likely that they will seek help and make informed decisions.

  • Let her know that you are worried about her and her children (if she has children).

    Tell her that you are there to support her and ask her if you can do anything to help.

  • Listen to what she has to say.

    Take her seriously and believe her. It has taken a lot of courage for her to talk to you. Even if you think her partner is a nice person, perpetrators can often be charming but show a different side of themselves in the home.

  • Encourage her and try to build up her confidence in herself.

    Let her know you think she is brave to talk about the abuse and praise her for seeking help.

  • Check in with her from time to time.

    Offer to help her with practical things like babysitting, cooking for her, driving her to the doctors, or providing her with a place to stay for a few nights.

  • Let her know what services are available to her and how she can access them.

    She may not be comfortable with talking to you, so let her know that there are other people she can talk to. Assist her in accessing these services if she requests it.

Further information can be found at:

Being an Ethical Bystander